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Surviving to Thriving

Mama's Group Coaching

Are you ready to move from just surviving as a family to fully thriving?

  • Eliminate Power Struggles 

  • Experience Tantrums Differently

  • Keep Your Sanity

  • Practice Strategies & Solutions

  • Learn LifeSaving Listening Skills

  • Build Resilience & Trust in Relationships

  • Face Big Emotions like Anxiety and Anger with Ease

  • Parent Whole and Enough

Millions of Mom's struggle with deeply feeling kids who are spirited and strong willed, sometimes anxious, angry, stubborn or defiant. Nothing can be more infuriating than giving so much to your kids, yet not feeling appreciated, listened to or respected. 

Know that you are not alone and there are concepts and skills that you can learn that will make it easier.


Learn to come alongside and speak boundaries they'll actually follow so you can rebuild trust, decrease the conflict and negative reactions, move from fight or flight into understanding one another and repairing relationships for better family connection. 

Let's go!

Next Group starts May 2023!

Manifest   the  Connection You Want

Are you a Mom of an toddler, elementary, tween or teen?


Do you feel as if you know enough about positive parenting to wonder why isn't it 'working' and if  you're doing it wrong?

What if you could learn tips and skills that would melt the angst and hopelessness you've felt in parenting?

Snack Time

Is your fiery or anxious child derailing
the whole family dynamic?

Do you feel triggered and at your wits end with your child's BIG emotions...

  • Resisting going to school

  • Arguing

  • Not listening

  • Hard to get to bed

  • Defiance

  • Lack of cooperation

  • Sibling fighting

  • Backtalk

  • Disrespect

  • Anger, Anxiety

Allison Livingston | 5 Steps to Connect | Santa Cruz, CA


  • Connecting to your strong willed child after their tantrum because you responded in a calm, non-triggered way.

  • Understanding the why and how to use more connective approaches so that you can be ready for anything your child throws at you.

  • Experiencing emotional wellbeing that will flow over to your kids.

  • Incorporate self-care into your days so you can keep going and giving.
  • Having the know how to work through an avalanche of anxious or negative thoughts.

  • Making repairs after making mistakes so your relationship grows stronger.


You really want a peaceful connected family, but... you are feeling frustrated.

All the posts, blogs and books on theories are great, but it doesn't seem to translate in the moment.


It feels like you know enough about positive parenting, but you keep yelling. You've read books and listened to podcasts on parenting, you may have even bought a course. But  it  just  isn't  working . Ugh!

You're likely trying to parent differently than your parents, so you're learning things like emotion regulation + boundaries for the first time while trying to teach them to your kids...



Your strong willed, deeply feeling kid's behavior is relentless and exhausting.

How do you get your child to cooperate without resorting to yelling, blame and shame? All you want is to reduce the meltdowns and power struggles...or to go to school and bed without a struggle...Is that so much to ask?


The way to improve your hard family dynamics in meaningful ways is within your grasp

Live Sessions
  • Connect and share your parenting struggles and successes in a supportive and judgment-free space.

  • A safe space to be heard that's built on trust and mutual agreements.

  • Meet fellow Moms who understand what you’re going through, and leave feeling seen, heard and accepted; empowered to try a new approach. 

  • Group sessions run on a platform that allows private group chats to make connections with one another, and keep everything together in one self-contained place.

  • Weekly videos and articles to gain insight and ah-ha's.

  • Unlearn old unskillful patterns and cultivate new ones that create the connection you yearn for.

  • Lessons and ideas you can access and implement at any time for skill building, encouragement and support. 

  • Each session explores a theme and walks you through a framework you can use to approach these challenges in a proactive way.

  • Themes such as transforming anger, anxiety, defiance, disrespect, or meltdowns into understanding their unmet needs and connection. 

  • Weekly suggestions and encouragement for infusing self-care into your daily routine.

Break The "Eggshells toBlowUp" Cycle

This Program Is For You If...

  • You are a mom currently living with a strong willed, deeply feeling kid aged 3 -17 years old.

  • You find yourself bribing, blaming + yelling more than you would like.

  • You feel overwhelmed  by their INTENSE emotions so react...and then feel guilty. You're ready to make changes and be supported by expert coaching.

  • You've tried long enough on your own, read all the books and you need support and accountability to put them into practice.

  • You are ready for a system that actually works to improve how you and your child relate when they become angry or inflexible.

  • You need more inspiration, motivation and a community of Mom's like you.

  • The idea that Moms just like you have learned the steps to break the cycle of blaming & bribing their kids, to S.T.O.P. directing negative energy AT their child, leaves you yearning, so badly you clench your fists.

Four and Six Week Group Program Includes

Mother and Child
  • 6 Weekly short audio/video trainings on a 5 Steps To Connect resource                                                                          ($567 VALUE)

  • 6 Weekly trainings on working with your triggers to extend your patience                                                                          ($517 VALUE)

  • 4 or 6 Weekly LIVE Coaching Q & A Calls to unpack blow-ups, share ideas + solve all the problems                                       ($1167 VALUE)

  • Handouts like the Trigger Tracker and S.T.O.P. to Connect as well as cheat sheets, printables, + scripts                                ($390 VALUE)

  • Personal 1:1 coaching check-in to see where you are so you can focus on the most important parts first.                                 ($150 VALUE)   

  • Members Area making the training easily accessible on the go with and easy weekly schedule to keep making progress  ($199 VALUE)

  • At the culmination of 6 weeks, you'll have developed a personalized Tame the Trigger Map to guide you away from painful patterns and ease using the 5 Steps to Connect                                    (Priceless!)

  • Private community group for conversation + support   ($97 VALUE)

  • BONUSES!  Qi Gong Wellness Practice to Reset, a personal one-on-one coaching session, private intake form to share where you are so we can form a custom plan for you and your family, and the Proven In-The-Moment-24-Quick-Simple-Ways-to-Center-When-Your-Child-is -NOT  Infographic                                                           ($370 VALUE)


You will improve your relationship with your strong willed child. 

I have had so much success coaching Moms because of my own experience and training that I GUARANTEE this or I will gift you personal coaching sessions until you are completely satisfied.


My strong willed 6-year-old resisted everything I told her so we were in near constant power struggles it seemed. Ugh! Lots of yelling from both of us. No consistency on my end as I hated setting limits that caused more fighting. I felt like I couldn't win. Her dad would get involved and it would get worse when he dominated her. Now I know why all this was happening, about the determined nature she was born with, how I was contributing to the conflicts and the empowering to shift to get her buy in so we could work together. Wow, what a difference. I would look forward to the Zooms every week. We still have some hard moments because her nature is the same, but I'm able to see it differently. If I get triggered now, I can recognize my body signs sooner, and not lose my cool at her. I can do a U turn and figure out what's going on with me. The incredible part is that she's starting to watch me and do the same. So cool!

Gina / Mom of 2 / Seattle, WA

Parenting is such a personal thing. I hesitated to start this group for an embarrassing reason, my own ego to admit I needed help. I felt ashamed, how could I not be good at something that was supposed to come naturally. So I was just getting by, even though there were tons of meltdowns, power struggles and sibling fighting. Then I saw your tag line, 'It doesn't have to be so hard' and that's when I knew that I was ready for help. Now I have these proven things that I can use. Why did I wait so long! And I have my checklists and scripts I can go back to if I need to, but just encouragement and support from Allison was the best thing for me. I hear her voice in my head, "No one's wrong. How can we relate here?'

Susie / Mom of 3 / Santa Cruz, CA

I wasn't sure this would be right for me and did I even have a deeply feeling kid? My son is super anxious and going to school is a constant struggle. Especially after the Covid break, he kept saying he had a stomach ache and wouldn't go. Worse I'm getting in trouble with the school for him not going. I tried everything to convince him, bribe him, threaten him...nothing worked...until I started coaching with Allison. She showed me the steps to validate my son so he didn't feel alone in his anxiety. Turns out I was making him feel anxious about feeling anxious! Ugh! Now I have the skills to relate with his deep emotions and he's going to school again. What a relief to work with someone who knew how to support us turn things around. Joining the group coaching is the best decision I ever made and since they are recorded, I could show my husband so we could both learn and be on the same page. 

Alex / Mom of 2 boys / Scotts Valley, CA

Transform your intense family dynamics into understanding, cooperation and connection!

Allison Livingston | 5 Steps to Connect | Santa Cruz, CA

As You Move Through This Group Program

  • Extending your patience significantly.


  • Finding solutions to behavior issues and share ideas with the help of a community of like-minded moms.


  • Allowing your strong-willed child to feel seen and heard.


  • Gaining clarity and self-assurance in your ability to  implement effective methodologies.


  • FINALLY being able to give yourself the grace you deserve!

Mother and Daughter Portrait


Know exactly how to shift out of reaction when facing challenging behavior with clarity. Have the skills to  de-escalate their sense of threat and co-regulate with them.

Break the Cycle

Break the cycle of blowing up at each other by learning the core foundation of 5 Steps to Connect.


You are not alone.

Connect with other Mom's struggling with strong willed kids whose rigid resolve is aggravating.


You'll experience relief knowing how to shift from reactive and controlling to wholehearted, breaking out of the exhausting battles over who gets their way and who's right.

Meeting Needs

Know how to do a MindFlip when your child gets angry or hits to see the needs underneath these behaviors. You'll be amazed how well they respond when you show up as an understanding part of their team. It feels amazing to be free of taking your child's behavior personally.

Set Clear Limits

Set clear, firm limits from wholeness not anger so they actually work. Develop the structure and clear communication that keeps them from derailing the whole family. Ironically, it helps them feel safe and loved as they benefit from the clarity.


Collaboratively problem solve so your child feels safe and empowered instead of controlled and threatened.


Strong willed kids have emotional intelligence within them. When you give them opportunities to release pent up energy in constructive ways, they flourish!

Results you want for are within your grasp!

    The first week we'll have an extra live session on Sunday to kick off the program with a meet and greet to get to know each other and build trust. Each Sunday night, the week's training materials will be loaded into the members area. One section focuses on a new 5 Steps To Connect practice, another focuses on extending your patience and fun ways to connect. You'll listen to, watch and complete the resources on your own time between Sunday & Thursday evening. On Tuesday you'll practice Pausing to check within. On Wednesday you’ll be invited to respond to a journal prompt to further integrate the concepts. Thursday we'll gather together LIVE to practice and play with the coaching concept of the week. You'll have the opportunity to ask questions, work through struggles, share your own successes & ideas, and encourage others. (Time TBD depending on schedules and time zones) On Friendship Friday you'll have a chance to share with another Mom to vent & celebrate, work on your edge with trust & community. Over the weekend we encourage you to make No-Agenda & Special Time Saturday Dates with each child (even 5 minutes fills their connection tank!) and Sunday Self-Care dates with yourself to replenish your tank. And the following week we keep building your parenting toolbox & shifting your mindset. This structure will guide you to let go of your old reactive patterns so your child can let go of theirs. You'll cultivate building trust and connection together. No more walking on eggshells! No more intense fights! Confidence facing BIG emotions!
    We'll gather together LIVE to practice with the coaching concept of the week. You'll have the opportunity to ask questions, share your own successes & ideas, and encourage others. Date and time is TBD based on needs of the group. Last cohort it was Thursdays at 8pm PST. Could be 5 pm or 6pm or 7pm PST. Another time it was Sundays at 5 pm PST.
    The Live sessions with Q&A will be recorded and you will have access to the recording within 12 hours.
    1.5 hours a week. 20 minutes to digest the training materials each week especially since you can listen while multi-tasking since it will be mostly video or audio info. 10-30 minutes for the Pause to check in, journaling and Special Time dates 60 minutes to be on or listen to the Q&A zoom sessions. This time is an investment in the short term that will pay you back in a lifetime of connection and improved relating patterns with your family. Priceless. It's just six weeks.
    Research has shown that participating in a course with a LIVE component + friendly accountability is the most effective way of learning, much more effective than just reading a book. The information and concepts in this course are synthesized from hundreds of hours of knowledge and experiential workshops over 17 years. In addition to the information the format will be based on your life situations and customized for you. Most importantly, the material is for you to learn and model which is why it works so well changing the behavior of strong-willed children. The experiential format we use will show you how to do this. It's powerful. Learning to practice and model these life affirming skills is the secret sauce to connecting with your strong willed children. It's taking information from your head to your heart, where we relate from.
    You can. The question to ask is: will you? Old ingrained patterns of reacting have been hard-wired over years. Research shows it takes the support of others to make lasting meaningful change in how you show up and relate. The Group Program is designed come along side you and accelerate the process by curating and breaking down the vast information into a proven 5 Step process that can be implemented with support and accountability to ensure your best intentions become reality. Instead of just thinking about change, you integrate & practice new ways of relating. With this program you can cut through the overwhelming and conflicting information that is out there and bring to you a proven strategy put forth by the latest research, psychology, conflict resolution and brain research. The best part of this program is the community! Hearing from others with similarly intense and inflexible kids what is working for their family, problem solving and feeling supported and understood.
    You can, but can your family wait? When it comes to challenging behavior and hard family dynamics intervention earlier is always better. Then next group program may not be for another year, but there is always 1:1 private coaching. It's easier to Learn than Unlearn. The results are priceless.
    The value of the program is in Allison's time and expertise, connections made and the personal development and growth will surpass the price of the program. More significant is the cost of NOT signing up for the program. Imagine what your life will look like it you don't make changes and take action. Our child is priceless; our relationship with them is crucial. Here are a few questions to ask yourself when considering your budget? Is your family one of your top priorities? Are you willing to make a short term investment for the long term impact for your whole family? Is your mental health a priority for you? How important is your child's self esteem? Their mental health? Are you willing to pay more to surround yourself with a community that supports you and holds you accountable to get the results you want? A commitment at this level ensures everyone in the group program is dedicated to improving their family relationships.
    Yes. We want you to be completely satisfied and so we have a refund policy. We guarantee that your relationship with your strong willed child will be much improved by the end of the program or we will give you your money back. * *This assumes that you spend time each week to follow the program.
    You have access to the group area for one year.

You Are Not Alone

Join a community where you can feel safe to share your frustrations, your challenges and your celebrations. A community that understands and supports your needs. 


Allison Livingston | 5 Steps to Connect | Santa Cruz, CA


Allison Livingston | 5 Steps to Connect | Santa Cruz, CA


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